181 - How to Not Give Up
Resilience isn't just about surviving the dating scene—it's about transforming challenges into strengths. Your life experiences have shaped you into someone who can adapt and thrive in difficult situations. When facing ableism, accessibility issues, non-inclusive dating platforms, and the complexities of disability disclosure, resilience keeps you moving forward.
Dating Burnout
Burnout manifests as lack of enthusiasm, emotional drain after interactions, or an overall negative attitude toward dating. Everyone faces rejection—think of it like mint chocolate chip ice cream: not everyone's favorite, but delicious to those who appreciate it.
When burnout hits, give yourself permission to take breaks. You don't need to be constantly active on dating apps or always available. Step away to recharge. Self-care isn't selfish—it ensures you'll be your best self when the right opportunities arise.
Realistic Expectations
Not every date will lead to a lifelong connection, and that's perfectly okay. Focus on enjoying the process and getting to know new people without unnecessary pressure. Each interaction becomes an opportunity for growth rather than a pass/fail test for finding "the one."
Quality Over Quantity
Instead of connecting with as many people as possible, focus on building deeper connections with individuals who align with your values and interests. These meaningful interactions are more fulfilling and likelier to develop into the relationship you seek. Remember that meaningful connections take time—they can't be rushed.
Self-Discovery Journey
Use this time to engage in activities you're passionate about, pursue hobbies that bring joy, and invest in personal growth. A strong, fulfilled individual who knows their worth attracts healthier relationships. Your dating journey isn't just about finding someone else—it's about continuing to find yourself.
Resilience isn't about never feeling discouraged—it's about not letting discouragement define your journey. Reflect on how dating experiences have made you more resilient and what strategies you've developed to bounce back. Keep your heart open to possibilities and be kind to yourself along the way.
Free Resource
What Makes You Resilient guide
Other Podcasts on Resilience
Your Disability is Your Superpower
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