27 - Dating Strategy #4 - Having a Personal Plan to Take Action?

Today we’re talking about the last strategy in our mini series on the four strategies for dating successfully with a disability. While all the strategies are critical, this is probably the most important one to do. Take action. Do something. Put yourself out there. Otherwise, how are you going to be successful dating?

Over my career, both as a mental health counselor and as a teacher and trainer in dating and relationships, I have encountered countless people who so desperately want to date but do nothing. And if this is you, I have immense compassion for you, even as I’m giving you some tough love, because I was like you for so many years. I wanted more than anything to meet someone and fall in love but I was just too afraid to do anything. I wasted so many years in fear. Don’t do that. 

What’s Your Framework for Getting What You Want?

Take what you learned in this miniseries and actually put it into action to create what you want in your life. If you haven’t heard the who series, go back and begin listening to Episode 24. Don't just consume, apply it to your life! This is a framework for you to develop a personal plan for yourself on how will take steps to meet people, date, and develop happy relationships.

How Do I Meet Someone?

I’ll do a separate episode on strategies for this but here’s a preview. Address the classic question of “How do I meet people?” Familiarity sparks friendships and relationships, find activities you would like to regularly participate in. The more others see you on a frequent basis, the more they get to know you. This will increase the probability of meeting people you get to know over time and allow relationships to grow.

Take a look at new places. At the places and activities you’re already involved in. Are there people in those places that can be of potential dating interest?

The key is to balance familiar, regular places you go to with trying new places and events to meet people.

Be willing to get out of your comfort zone

Think about what feels right for you, but be willing to get out of your comfort zone, try something new, and take risks that challenge you to grow and reach further toward your dreams.

Affirmations

What are three affirmations you're going to adopt from this guide or ones that you create to help increase your dating confidence?

Bold and Positive Communication

What are three ways you're going to begin to boldly and positively communicate with dates about your disability? 

Where Do We Go From Here?
Have you have included all of the above in your personal plan for dating? Then, congratulations! Fantastic work! You should feel very good about yourself for taking this workshop and doing this wo

Check out our Dating Memberships:

Dating Made Easier (for all people wanting to date) - is a monthly membership for anyone (with or without disabilities) who wants support and guidance in dating skills and getting the RESULTS you want in dating and relationships. Click here to learn more.

Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more.

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