34 - What to Tell Yourself to Increase Dating Confidence

Let’s face it -- dating with a disability can be hard! People can struggle to accept you and what you have to offer. It can certainly affect your self esteem and confidence. This is exactly why I specialize in ways to increase self esteem and confidence when dating. The best way to counter this is through affirmations, positive statements you focus on as a way of building your confidence. 

Not Faking It

• I want to be clear about something. Saying affirmations is about changing your beliefs. It is not about “faking it until you make it,” which unfortunately is what I used to believe.
• Affirmations are about pretending to be something you’re not. It’s about rewiring your brain your thoughts and beliefs to work with you rather than against you.

Why These  Statements Work

Here are 8 affirmations to increase your confidence in dating and relationships. I’m going through each statement to explain why it works.  If you don’t believe these statements right now, that’s fine. Try to remove any judgment as you say them. The power of affirmations comes from reading them and saying them daily. As you do, you change your mindset to bring about the positive changes you want in your life.

• My disability and the experience of living with it only adds to what I have to offer.
• The strengths and personal qualities, such as determination and acceptance of others, you have gained from living with a disability enhance who you are and what you offer to others.
• I enjoy dating and meeting people.
• I attract people who see my disability as an asset.
• I have the courage to let go of negative people to make room for people who see my value.
• My disability adds to my value as a person.
• I only accept people in my life who treat me well.
• I deserve a fun, loving, and healthy relationship.
• There’s someone out there who would love to be in a relationship with me.

Where Do We Go From Here? 

• “You must master a new way to think before you master a new way to be.” - Marianne Williamson
• Saying these affirmations will help you focus on a new way to be, one that is confident in your worth, disability and all.
• So much of dating is about your mindset and how you perceive yourself as a potential partner.
• Grab the download for this episode, Affirmations for Confidently Dating. It has all the affirmations I just went through. Practice saying them, mentally focus on them, have them become part of a new way to be in the dating scene.

Resources 

• Free download - Affirmations for Confidently Dating

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