55 - Practicing the Law of Attraction
Chris Johnson describes himself as a 42-year-old man in a wheelchair with Cerebral Palsy, He says, "My experience with dating and relationships amounts to a series of unrequited crushes throughout my adolescence and adulthood. I’ve never been on a date or had a girlfriend. In the past two years or so, I’ve really grown emotionally and spiritually, and I feel ready to enter a committed romantic relationship with a woman who’s willing and able to share a life with me.
I believe that ableism poses a large obstacle to dating and relationships for people with disabilities. We’re seen as undesirable partners due to our physical limitations, as well as the issues these limitations pose regarding mobility, fitness, and perceived attractiveness. I’m average-looking at my worst, but for years, I believed I was ugly because of my weight. Although I think I would be seen in a better light if I lost quite a few pounds, I doubt if that alone could negate the effects ableism has on my social life.
One of the many reasons I appreciate Radiant Abilities is their effort to educate people on how to recognize ableism and overcome it. It’s so ingrained in our society that people—both able-bodied and differently-abled—don’t often realize on a conscious level that they are engaging in it. I guarantee that I myself have deep-seated ableist attitudes that need to change. Radiant Abilities can help me change them with the resources you provide.
The advice I would give to people with disabilities who are in search of dating success and healthy relationships is to first cultivate an attitude of self-love and self-confidence. Become the person you want to be in a relationship with. Stay humble and grateful, while filling your mind with positive thoughts and intentions.
Then, speak those affirmations aloud until you feel as if you have already attained the success you seek. Your confident, positive energy will attract potential partners who will also be confident and positive. This type of manifestation takes patience and faith. It’s a process I’ve found myself in for nearly two years now, and I feel like things are slowly but surely aligning for me to find a path to a life partner."
Resources
Radiant Abilities Dating Resources
You can connect with Chris on:
The Purple Knight podcast about his favorite musician, Prince
Check out our Dating Memberships:
Dating Made Easier (for all people wanting to date) - is a monthly membership for anyone (with or without disabilities) who wants support and guidance in dating skills and getting the RESULTS you want in dating and relationships. Click here to learn more.
Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more.
Music by Successful Motivation |
Artwork photo by Elevate
