74 - Small Changes for BIG Results

Today I want to focus on transitional behavior change in dating. In this episode, we will be discussing how to change your behavior in small ways to get the results in dating and relationships that you want. Whether you're moving from casual dating to a committed relationship or just trying to work up the courage to put yourself out there, these transitions can be challenging, and changing your behavior can be even more difficult.

To start, it's essential to understand that transitional behavior change requires self-awareness and intentionality. You have to be aware of the behaviors that no longer serve you and intentional about changing them. It's also essential to remember that these changes won't happen overnight. It takes time and effort to make significant changes in behavior.

When it comes to the behavior changes required so that you can put yourself out there, that even more challenging. That’s why you want to begin with small steps like maybe just reading a book or an article on dating. Maybe you join a free dating site or app to just get used to it. Maybe you tell one friend you’re thinking of dating and ask if they know anyone that may be a good match for you.

The key is you begin to take action to develop new behaviors that will lead to you being more open and available to meet potential dates. I recently heard someone talk about transitional behavior change when she began losing 100 pounds. Now losing 100 pounds feels like a monumental task. This woman began by just walking 15 minutes a day. 15 minutes is very doable. Many of you don’t know I wrote a book several years ago called Firewalk: Embracing Different Abilities. It took me several years to write and I finally finished it by beginning to write 15 minutes a day.

So if you’re having a hard time getting going with dating, what can you do in 15 minutes a day to make progress?

In conclusion, transitional behavior change in dating requires self-awareness, intentionality, and effort. Whether you're transitioning from casual dating to a committed relationship or from a long-term relationship to being single, the key is to be open to change and willing to do the work. Remember that change won't happen overnight, and it's essential to be patient and kind to yourself along the way. With the right mindset and commitment, you can successfully navigate these transitions and create a dating life that aligns with your values.

Resources 

Dating Made Easier membership

Kathy's book - Firewalk: Embracing Different Abilities

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